Trouble With Neighbors...

[Krissy]

Ok, I had an oops moment this week and now I'm worried I might be in trouble for it... Although not the trouble you might think... The roommate that I've shared a dorm room for the past two years and I decided to rent a condo about 3 blocks from school this year instead of living on campus.  I LOVE it!  It's so nice to have something more like "a house" instead of "a room", and it's so close to campus that my roommate and I are just walking to school.

Ok, so the problem... Most of you that know me know that when I get home, the clothes come off, because that's just the way I am and the way I've always been.  My roommate has become much the same way, although she wasn't raised nudist like I was.  But, that's not the problem... We have a small "private" backyard.  I'm not restricted from going out back here at home (my parent's home), so I never even think about needing clothes to go outside.  So, we have a small flowerbed in the backyard at our condo.  Last night (Thursday night), without thinking, I went outside to water the flowers because they looked like they needed it.  No, I didn't put anything on, afterall it's a "private yard"... but not so private I found out.  Our next door neighbor (a guy who also goes to my school) was studying outside in his "private yard".  He was dressed.  He said hello, so I talked to him for a while, not realizing that he could see me.  Don't get me wrong, it's not like plenty of people haven't seen me sans clothing, but I didn't realize he could until he complimented me on what a great tan I had and how hard I must work to get such a tan.  Even though I was a bit shocked that he could see me so easily, it doesn't bother me that he did, he's certainly not the first.  However, he greeted me when I walked out the front door this morning, like he was waiting for me.  I was nice and talked to him, but I really didn't have any time since I'd only allowed enough time to walk to class.  So, this afternoon, I'm on my way home (to the condo) and he sees me.  So he stops and talks to me again and asks me out on a date tonight.  Since my roommate and I were coming back here to Denver, I had a really good excuse and said that I couldn't.  But now I'm worried that he's like psycho... I can't help but think that he just wants to get to know "the naked girl next door"... Am I wrong?  He's nice enough and is kinda cute... but am I wrong to think that he's thinkng more about me being naked than who I am?  Help.... What do you all think?

[DoctorManhattan]

Yea sounds like hes moving way too fast. You have to see neighbors so often that I think it would be inconvenient to date them. Why don't you try telling him about naturism while at the same time avoiding the come ons. Doesn't sound like hes psycho, probably just confused your nakedness for sexuality.

[NudistMetalHead]

I think he's definitely being a bit too forward with you.  I don't think he's psycho per se, so I doubt he's in any way shape or form a threat to you physically.  But when you do go to your parents' home, do proceed with a bit of caution.  Better to be safe than be sorry.

[papabare]

Just sounds like he is hot for the cute naked girl next door. Every collage guy's dream I bet he is going to be outside a Lot more often now

[AuFiat]

Just sounds like he is hot for the cute naked girl next door. Every collage guy's dream I bet he is going to be outside a Lot more often now

I hate to say it, but that's probably the truth.

I have two suggestions: one, be outright with him, or two, ignore him. I would suggest being outright (blunt) with him. Let him know what the situation is because he may have the idea that you went nude because he was in the backyard. Miscommunication can be worse than no communication.

[Krissy]

Thanks guys... I do think he's being a bit forward and I really want someone to like me for me, not because "I'm naked"... and I think he is just out for the naked girl next door....  You don't know how glad I am to be home right now where it's safe!!!!

I think you may be right AuFiat... I probably need to just let him know, it's just that I'm not all that good with things like that.  My roommate wants to knock his block off... Hopefully I'll have the chance (and the courage) to say something this next week.  Part of me wants to think he likes me for me... but...

Ok, so I tell him I'm a nudist, this is how I live, it's not sexual, etc... and he still wants to date me... Will I ever really know what his motives are?

[Jackie24]

Be Careful! You will know what to do. Any chance he is a nudist ?

Love Jackie

[cupid_boy]

Even if you tell him that you are a naturist, the difficult part is to find out whether he understand naturism in proper way or not. There are great chances that he might still invite you for date (or friendship or ..XYZ..whatever you cal) just because he can get more opportunities to see you naked in the name of friendship...
So be careful all the time...if you are not at a secured naturist resort or at a naturist gathering, never get naked in front of people who doest know abt naturism..in these days of internet and tiny cams,never take risk without knowing the intentions in others minds..
I don't want to embrace you..just want to make you little carefull abt yourself..

I wish he is also a naturist just like us

[fellxout]

He's def thinking bout the naked girl next door I would just stay friendly with him "nothing more nothing less", just if it escolates  that's when ya gotta tell him to fuck off. From what I remember about college theirs very few decent guys out there.

[Krissy]

I don't think he's a naturist at all... He was dressed in his back yard afterall... And I think he would have said something to me Friday if he was... Afterall, I'd say something if I found out someone I "knew" was a naturist... There aren't exactly a lot of us...

I thought it would be funny to invite him over and answer the door naked, but my parents nearly had heartattacks!    Don't worry... I wouldn't ever, just thought it was funny at the time... I know other females who haven't had good experiences with guys who "knew they were naturists", and I really don't want to go there...

I'm just dreading tomorrow evening when we go back to the condo...

[AuFiat]

I know other females who haven't had good experiences with guys who "knew they were naturists", ....

I figure that once a textile guy discovers that a girl is a naturist before they know each other, it's probably difficult to find out why he likes her. IMO, if you were to invite him to a naturist club and he declines, it may be easier to see what his intentions are. The thing is that it's difficult (I believe) for textiles to know the "philosophy" of naturism because they look at naturists from the outside, and they see sex. That is (obviously) the wrong approach. The only way to view naturists is on the inside. Among naturists, we understand this, but some textiles have a harder time seeing past the flesh because they haven't been exposed (pun intended) to the "philosophy" of naturism....

I think I'm just ranting now 

[Krissy]

Don't worry about ranting... Thank you... I think you're right.  Problem is more that I think he's kinda cute and I kinda liked the attention on Friday, but yet I'm worried about the whole thing too.  I guess I'll see what happens this week... At least it's only 4 days!!! 

For anyone who might be worried...  My roommate and I have decided to walk to school and back together each day just to be on the safe side... Our class times more or less correspond, so shouldn't be too much trouble.  Thanks everyone!  I'll let you all know how it goes....

[ComputationJason]

My advice is to not worry but just be safe, and just be upfront and honest.

This guy saw a pretty girl and decided to ask her out.  That seems like pretty normal behavior.  Sure you were naked that one time, but that just means that the guy saw you in your prettiest state of dress.

Sure, maybe the guy just wants sex, but you never know that right away with guys anyway.  Just be honest, straightforward, and safe.

Hopefully this guy can understand what it means to be a naturist, and can understand that you weren't trying to use your naked body to get male attention.  Who knows, maybe it's not just your naked body he admires, maybe he admires your uniqueness and your ability to be comfortable in your own skin?

[Krissy]

Thanks Christine!  I'll let you know..... 

[Jared]

Just sounds like he is hot for the cute naked girl next door. Every collage guy's dream

This is probably the most accurate statement regarding his intentions.

You never know for sure, so I would be careful, but what guy wouldn't want to get to know the cute naked girl next door? Or just the girl next door for that matter.