Trouble With Neighbors...

[wheelguy]

I'd say if he's psycho it wasn't the site of your nude body that suddenly triggered it in him again.  Had you ever talked to him before this?  I too think he probably just likes the cute naked girl next door and he probably found your friendliness and confidence even while nude to be a turn on.  Or because you were nude he may think your easy.  Never know with guys.  If he's the type you'd normally go on a date with then it's up to you.  At the same time, if it doesn't work out you are living next door to him.

[Krissy]

Ok, so here's the update....

My roommate and I drove back to our condo last Monday night... We just drove into the garage and closed the door... Didn't see anyone and no problems...

Tuesday came and went and we didn't see our neighbor yet again... I was actually beginning to wonder if he had moved or something?!!??

But then Wednesday happened... Our neighbor met us as we walked out the front door to go to school.  He asked if he might meet us for lunch, so we said yes.... and we did have lunch with him.  My roommate is so blunt... She just plain out asked him what his intentions were.     He said he just wanted to get to know us... So we talked.  He asked if I was often in the backyard naked, so that just opened the door and I talked about nudism and how I grew up (just the highlights)...  That was about all we had time for, but then he asked me out for tonight (Friday)... I said yes, but only if my roommate could come along too.  He seemed a little disappointed, but said ok anyway....

So we didn't see him at all on Thursday... Tonight (Friday), I'm just finally home in Denver after "the date".  It all went ok and he seems nice enough - remember Sarah was along too.  Guess I'll see how things go at this point.   We didn't talk about "being naked" at all tonight, but I still wonder if that isn't a major part of his "liking me"... Any suggestions on "outing" him?  Maybe I'm the one who's paranoid????

[Krissy]

I'd say if he's psycho it wasn't the site of your nude body that suddenly triggered it in him again.  Had you ever talked to him before this?  I too think he probably just likes the cute naked girl next door and he probably found your friendliness and confidence even while nude to be a turn on.  Or because you were nude he may think your easy.  Never know with guys.  If he's the type you'd normally go on a date with then it's up to you.  At the same time, if it doesn't work out you are living next door to him.

Wheelguy,

No, I had never even seen him before... We'd only been in our condo about 2 weeks when we were both in our backyards at the same time.... That was our first talk.  I thought it was worth trying a date with him tonight (given that my roommate was along), and it was.  But I'm definitely not easy... Don't want him to think that...

[AuFiat]

...he asked me out for tonight (Friday)... I said yes, but only if my roommate could come along too.  He seemed a little disappointed....

As a male, I can't say I blame him for being disappointed. When there's a third wheel on the date, it's difficult to talk about some things or make some of the moves that would normally be done during dates.

With outing (you mean getting rid of him?), you could get him not to like you. You said you're "definitely" not easy, maybe bring that up and see where his intentions are. Or maybe you could turn it into game. You can tell him stuff like "I like it when a man has such confidence that he can walk around like this ...."

[Krissy]

By "outing him", I meant have him confess what his intentions really are... He seems sweet enough... I just want him to like me because of me and not because he might get to see me naked again... Does that make sense?

[DoctorManhattan]

There are plenty of places and events to meet guys in a college town, if you date this guy and then you break up, its going to be weird every time you go home, you'll always be wondering if hes watching or waiting for you.

Why don't you just try to be his friend, if you can't be his friend before you date, then in my opinion he's not worth dating in the first place.

LoL I feel bad for being such a "_____ block" but just lookin out for my fellow nudie!

Sounds like you should join some clubs Krissy, plenty of good guys on campus.

-Derek

[mike345]

By "outing him", I meant have him confess what his intentions really are... He seems sweet enough... I just want him to like me because of me and not because he might get to see me naked again... Does that make sense?

I think there's a different perspective. The initial attraction between a man and a woman is usually triggered by a physical attraction, no? I think about some of the girls I've dated and asked out, sometimes they were dressed up out at the bar the first time we met, wearing revealing clothes that triggered the attraction. Now, you're a pretty girl and I'm sure you have a beautiful body. Imagine that guy sees you and then instead of freaking out, you engage in a conversation. So you're a cool, attractive girl. Why wouldn't he want to go out with you?

[Krissy]

Interesting perspective... Thank you.  Do you think he's hoping that if he "gets to know me" long enough that he'll eventually get to see me naked again?  On the other hand, should I avoid being naked around him (like in our backyard) or does anyone think that really matters?  It'll be cold soon, so probably not much of a problem except for the next few weeks....

Thanks for all the compliments, btw...    You're all too nice.... 

[Aaron Stern]

Krissy, I'd recommend you do what we did many years back when we still lived in Santa Monica: a next door neighbor (Jarod, a young man in his twenties) had peeked thru a wooden fence my grandpa had erected around our property, and he "threatened" to tell "everybody you were running around naked"; that's how stupid some people are  ! Anyway, once again our dad did the right thing: he invited a couple of our nudie friends, and this neighbor, to a Sunday afternoon BBQ, telling him this was a nudie get-together, and he would be very welcome to join us, and he did  , and told us later he hadn't had a clue what nudism was all about, was all excited to participate, and had the best time.  Dad invited him to a second nudie BBQ, and Jarod said he felt like an old-timer  .  So Krissy, why not have a little nudie get-together with the "boy next door"?  Invite some of your friends, so you'll be (and feel) safe, and you'll see whether he is mature/serious/whatever, or not.  Just recommending!  Aaron   

[mike345]

Interesting perspective... Thank you.  Do you think he's hoping that if he "gets to know me" long enough that he'll eventually get to see me naked again? 

He's a guy. Of course he's hoping to see you naked again. 

 

On the other hand, should I avoid being naked around him (like in our backyard) or does anyone think that really matters?  It'll be cold soon, so probably not much of a problem except for the next few weeks....

I think if you haven't had the conversation with him about why you're naked, it would be wise to avoid lest he get the wrong impression of your intentions. I think it comes down to your comfort level.

[Krissy]

Thanks Mike and Aaron...

This week was interesting... Our neighbor wasn't home all that much, and I only saw him once.  Thursday was a beautiful day and he was no where around, so I decided to spend some afternoon time laying out in the back yard and studying.  I figured I'd hear him come home, if he did, but I didn't.  After an hour or so, I hear him say hi... So, I talked to him for a couple of minutes and then he asked if I minded if he studied in his backyard too.  I said I didn't mind, so he actually did take off his clothes and studied for a while.  We talked again through the fence before I went inside, and that was it... I'm home (in Denver) now, so will wait until next week to see what happens...

Thanks everyone for your advice!

[mike345]

Thanks Mike and Aaron...

This week was interesting... Our neighbor wasn't home all that much, and I only saw him once.  Thursday was a beautiful day and he was no where around, so I decided to spend some afternoon time laying out in the back yard and studying.  I figured I'd hear him come home, if he did, but I didn't.  After an hour or so, I hear him say hi... So, I talked to him for a couple of minutes and then he asked if I minded if he studied in his backyard too.  I said I didn't mind, so he actually did take off his clothes and studied for a while.  We talked again through the fence before I went inside, and that was it... I'm home (in Denver) now, so will wait until next week to see what happens...

Thanks everyone for your advice!

Wow, that's a pretty great resolution!

[Bboy1986]

This whole thing is very interesting, and it sounds like progress is being made.

[henchman]

Hey Krissy,

Hope you are well.

I will go and rob a bank and join Kristine to Hench him if he is starting to be too much... lol
It is actually so unfair not to be normal, where ever you wanna be, but unfortunately this world is not like that. It is a very good thing to be with your roommate, but I think it is important for you to tell him who you are and let him know that you are a naturist. Tell him that you actually only realized that you are naked, when he made the remark.

The fact that u do like him in a way, makes it bit difficult for you, but hold him on a line by not going out with you for a while and see what reaction you get from him, or if you really really would like to go out with him, tell him that your roommate also going with. Then see what happens... If he really want to go out with Krissy, then he will, but if he want to go out with the naked girl next door, I think you will find out in some way.... Just take care and always think ahead.

Good luck, Krissy.

[Krissy]

Hennie,

Actually, we've gotten to be pretty good friends... He hasn't asked me out again, but he seems pretty harmless and we've seen each other (we do live next door to each other afterall) quite a bit in the last few weeks... It's become more of a friendship than anything so far, and I have talked to him about being a naturist and that I didn't even have a thought about the fact that I was naked when I walked outside that day until he mentioned my tan (which is sure fading quickly, btw)... And he hasn't seen me naked in quite a while now either as the weather hasn't been all that great for it lately, and I suspect we'll stay that way now.  He did tell me that he's now sleeping naked and spends time naked inside... Is he a convert just yet?  I don't think so, but he may be on his way... The lifestyle does seem to interest him... So, I'm just enjoying the friendship for now and we'll see where it goes...

Krissy